Meet Your Moderators/Coaches

[Josh Zydlo]

Ever Wondered About the History of Your Moderators?



Josh: I’ve known this one for person my entire life, about 11 years ago he suddenly got representation with four prominent modeling agencies located in New York City, Chicago, and Orlando. Talent agents were now working for him. We saw him on CBS’s The Late Show with David Letterman, to commercial print modeling in periodicals including The Chicago Tribune, and we learned he was working on the set of NBC’s ER. He learned how the talent and entertainment industries operate.

In late 2004, this "lifestyle" model met Dr. Paul at a popular restaurant in Chicago. Okay, I’m sure by now you’ve figured out I may have been misleading you a little, and I’m actually writing about Dr. Paul and myself. I've been tooting my own horn but only to let you know that I'm giving you the best from my best. At any rate, I kept bumping into Dr. Paul, I learned of his work, and incorporated his MindOS system into my daily life. Dr. Paul had suggested that some kind of fashion input would be a valuable addition to what he could offer others. He and I both agreed it was a good fit and began to work together. The best part of it was that I already knew the “how to” part of image and fashion, after all I had my own fashion company for a while. Yet, I now was able to understand “the why,” and linking the two together has become one of the most valuable tools that I can offer to anyone’s daily repertoire. In 2006 or so we launched the 7th Sense of Fashion (for men), and in 2009 I finished the 2nd Edition of the 7th Sense of Fashion, with an extra 55 pages of content.

The things I have learned from absorbing Dr. Paul’s materials have been invaluable not just for my personal life and evaluating past failures and successes; the materials have also enriched my life beyond this area. My diplomatic skills among others have also increased dramatically, allowing me to team up with potential “enemies” to create win/win situations. Can you image how much better your professional life would be if you could be the ultimate team player and leader where appropriate? The principles of MindOS combined with KWML can serve to make you THE ultimate asset to those in your life. Although many of our offerings are packaged in a way to enhance your personal lives this is just a byproduct of the essence of what we offer. What we really provide is a system of personal evolution and development that provides you with a more fulfilling and rewarding life. This is the main reason I’m here.

My talents are honed to working with individuals, both men and women, who really want to have their own unique yet classic style, as well as counseling modeling industry professionals. Until recently I've had years more experience working with women than men. Hey, I’ve heard all the questions about fashion and clothing, starting with what to wear for a photo shoot, what to wear for a night on the town, what to wear for a date, up to with what to wear for a TV interview. Easier questions range from, “Can I wear these shoes with jeans, or should I wear a different pair of jeans with these shoes?” “What cut of jeans is best, and the length…, for those shoes?” The more difficult questions often include, “Well, why is this color better with my skin and for this situation, and well, WHAT DOES IT REALLY say about me?” “How do I build my own sense style, where I not only fit in with my group, but stand out at the same time?”

In closing, I look forward contributing to everything that is added here. My promise to you is that you will only receive the best feedback, based on Dr. Paul’s teachings combined with my professional experience and knowledge.

[ArtMuse]

ArtMuse ~ Laura

The month of October marks an anniversary for me, for several reasons. It's my birth month, and it was during this month, three years ago, that I felt most alone, rejected and without purpose in life. A very painful relationship experience saw the drain of my self-esteem as I tumbled into a serious depression. I began a determined search to find answers to my questions, and a source of repair.

Why have I experienced heartbreak, yet again...?
How have I come to lose so much?
What am I doing wrong?

My search led to the women's happiness forum, and the writings of Dr. Paul. His e-Book, MindOS, proved invaluable, and provided the tools necessary to begin the work of rebuilding my boundary, and incentive to apply action and assertiveness, refilling my reservoir of self-esteem.

I have been married; I have been divorced. I have been estranged; I have been betrayed. I have been the betrayer. I have entertained apathy and loss of trust in my own ability to make good decisions. I have allowed myself to suffer, and I have struggled with the application of courage and assertiveness with regard to having my own needs met. I wondered if I could ever believe in anything again. Through research, journaling, counseling, the support of friends and family, time and patience, I found my way back to myself, and to the personal balance necessary to live an intentional, purpose-filled life. The materials and guidelines provided by Dr. Paul gave me a clear direction, an answer to the questions "how" and "why".

Understanding equals empowerment.

My experience with Dr. Paul and the womenshappiness.com moderators, coaches and members has allowed me to truly understand the importance of having and identifying good character, both in others, and myself. I have a clear vision and understanding of my own inherent value, to myself and for others.

I do not have children of my own, but enjoy a large and wonderful family. In 2006 I was reunited with my biological father [after four decades]; I can now claim two Dads.

My career includes 26 years in the art and framing industry, both wholesale and retail. I spent seven years as a Technical Advisor and 5-Day Trainer for people interested in opening their own business in the industry. Interior design, home decor, and all the fantastic aspects of creativity and art have been a core aspect of my life. I continue to express that creativity through painting, photography, writing, and music.

A 1999 graduate of Dale Carnegie, I am an assistant coach for their core motivational program, and am currently enrolled in their Instructor Training Program, with Dr. Paul's blessing. In 2006 I earned a Business degree, graduating magna cum laude, and am am interested in gaining entry into a Fine Art Masters program with SCAD. I studied Martial Arts for ten years, and am an active choir member. Ongoing roles include a servant leadership position for a major Artist Organization in the Southeast US.

The month of October will from this point forward reflect a new beginning; the launch of Dr. Paul's University of self-help and personal growth for women.©

KWML ~ Lover
Lover ~ 36%, Warrior ~ 29%, Queen ~ 21%, Magician ~ 14%
With a gift for art and mystery, Lovers share a deeper meaning and vision of the world.
Born in a Tiger year, on the cusp of Libra/Scorpio (unless you consider recent ideas on the zodiac, which moves me back a sign...) with a Leo moon, and Chitra in vedic.

[jdjeob]

jdjeob - Denise

I need a new user name! Until I get one, you all can call me JD.

First off, I have to say I consider myself to be a very lucky woman. In my life today have amazing children, supportive and dependable friends and family, a good career that pays the bills and excellent health. How could one ask for more than that?

I can't always say life has been so good, much of it my own doing. I was married for 15 years--my ex-husband is a good man, just not the right man for me. As our marriage was crumbling, I realized that I needed to learn more about men, myself and relationships. I got on line and started to search for ways to get more out of life. I came across another dating coach/site and began to read his materials. I was learning some, it was okay, although very 'surfacey'. However, investing in my growth led me to listen to an interview he had with Dr. Paul. As soon as I heard the interview, I just knew I had to learn more about Dr. Paul and what he had to offer. I'm so glad I did!

I started to receive Dr. Paul's amazing newsletters and realized that what he was teaching was UNDERSTANDABLE and ACTIONABLE. I furthered my growth by purchasing books and other materials, I finally felt like I had what I needed to REALLY look inward to see who I was and how I could do better. I learned more about who I am through studying KWML, and ACCEPTED myself, positive and negative. I looked at my marriage and determined concrete reasons why things didn't work out through Seventh Sense. And through MindOS, discovered what I needed to to do mature in regard to emotions and giving up control. The teleseminars were an invaluable way to talk to Dr. Paul about real life challenges and qustions.

Then I came on the forum and got to know Dr. Paul better...realizing his brilliance, but also recognizing he's just a 'regular guy'. Shortly after interacting on womenshappiness.com, I asked to become a moderator. I was so excited about everything that I had learned, I wanted to share it with the world and help others 'see the light'. I ESPECIALLY feel lucky to be able share what I've learned with my children.

Dr. Paul, the other moderators and coaches (many who have become dear friends), and the wonderful women on the forum allow me to continue to reinforce what I've learned and continue to learn. I sincerely feel priveleged to have the opportunity to learn from all the visitors to the forum.

I think I've had an interesting, varied life with many adventures. Moved out of where I grew up when I was 22 where I didn't know a soul. Have had many jobs in my life, all of them in some sort of customer/client service arena. Got married and had two children, who are almost off on their own. I have been with my current company for over ten years. I love my job, but am looking forward to a major change in life in the next 10 years, to totally change careers and do something new. I finished my Bachelor's Degree in 2007, not to advance my career, but only because it was something I always wanted to do. Sometimes I wonder how I get done what I need to get done!

I look forward to continuing to spread the good word of Dr. Paul. To share what I've learned in the hopes that others can benefit as I have (and hopefully earlier in life!). To help others through their own transitions by offering guidance and support.

My KWML style is WARRIOR with lots of Queen. Purple is my favorite color, it's the color of Royalty

[Les is more]

I suppose most good stories start with a rich plot of love and betrayal. There must be a hero, and a heroine. Personally, I’m prone to think of myself as the Cinderella type, but Snow white, or Sleeping Beauty would suffice. Please insert whatever type of physical beauty that you find most appealing here. I’ll take that too.

So my life started off in a whimsical fashion, a quiet child, content. If there was a doll around that needed Love I had plenty to give her. Loved it when my poor doll was sick, because then I could swaddle her up, kiss her sweet head, feed her fake bottles, and change her very un-wet bottom. She even had a few good haircuts, lucky doll that she was. Life was good. Throw in there a few dance classes, and any type of pink ballet slipper, (I always wanted the ones with ribbons) and you might even say life was grand. What I didn’t know then, that I know now, is that my personality style was a ‘Lover’

And then there were boys. First boy I ever loved, chased me endlessly in the school yard one day, while we played kissing tag, What I didn’t know as I ran and ran, was that somewhere along the line, the ‘game’ had changed. What was at first playful chasing, somehow turned into a deer/wolf scenario, and I was running for my life. When we finally reached the blacktop, I got the crap beat out of me, instead of the kiss that supposed to be the original intent. And here began my confusion over men, women and relationships. It was the first time in life that I realized that good doesn’t always win over evil, and that prince charming had one hell of a mean punch.

Fast forward 20 years from that date, and you’ll find me, deflated and divorced, with a 3 year old child, no job, no money, and one hell of an emotional bruise on my fairy tale head. My rose colored glasses had fallen to the floor, shattered into tiny pieces. I was 30, and about to grow up.

My journey had begun. I was probably the hardest years of my life, yet I was able to lay my head on my pillow at night and feel content that I was in the right place. I learned that sometimes the hardest choices in life turn out to be the biggest gifts, if we have the courage to embrace them, put in some hard work, and trust that one day all will be well. I learned that if I wanted to have an ideal partner in life, that I would have to work hard to become an ideal partner myself. Most of all, I learned that life was not fair.


And what about Cinderella, Snow white, and Sleeping Beauty? My impression is that they didn’t have it so bad. They were just like you and I. Living a life that was written for them. As the story goes, Prince charming arrived, blessed them with his kiss, and then they all lived happily ever after. So, what to do with a generation of women, who reached never never land and found that they were dissatisfied with the status quo? What to do with the women who aren’t happy with how it has been written? Where do we go from here? The answers to these questions are here, in this body of work we call the Doctor Paul Online University. These fairy tale women, didn’t disappear into the pages of happily ever after, they surfed the net, found Dr Paul, went back to school, and fast tracked to a happier, more contented self.

And so the story continues. Cinderella traded in her glass slippers for some cute little Nike’s and headed for the gym. Snow white and her entourage opened a bakery, with franchise possibilities, and Sleeping beauty woke up from her slumber, to find herself in her own upscale condo, with a big screen t.v, and a stack of Dr. Paul books by her bedside table. Life has just begun for these women, because contrary to popular belief, there was a full life to be lived, even after that first kiss. These characters weren’t failures for wanting an ideal life, they weren’t silly, or whimsical, and they didn’t have their heads in the clouds. What they were was brave. They are women. They are you and me, they are we, they are us. They had courage to look beyond the expected, and seek change. We are all living and writing our own fairy tale,. Write it well, Write it with passion. And when you lay your head on your pillow at night… Smile, because you earned it.

[janiceh]

janiceh - Janice (surprisingly!)

Four years ago I sat in my kitchen and felt the most overwhelming grief for my ‘lost youth’. I was 46 years old, heavily overweight (having given up smoking for a year), had a husband who loved me, two beautiful children who adored me, a successful career, good friends and family....and yet I felt unfulfilled and full of grief. I thought there was something wrong with me. After all, how could a woman have all that and still be unhappy? I contemplated the fact that I was past my ‘sell-by’ date in terms of physical attractiveness to men and that I would never again experience that unbelievable rush of being with someone for whom I felt that deep desire and attraction.

That was a life defining moment for me, one that precipitated the most incredible change in me and my life that I had ever experienced at any other stage of my life. I left my husband a bit over a year later and started on a journey that was exciting, bewildering, terrifying, thrilling, dramatic, exhausting and everything else in between, and ultimately led me to Dr Paul and this forum.

What I realised during this time was that I really knew very little about men, which was initially a surprise because I didn’t marry until I was 31 and had lived a full life up until then. This light bulb realisation was sparked by a couple of poor choices in men after I left my husband, the first one of which I didn’t pay too much attention to (for various reasons), but the second one I did, partly because he was a seemingly more appropriate choice, but also because the patterns that followed with him were very similar to the patterns of the first – and that concerned me. This man confused me enormously and in my desperation to find some answers and to understand him, I began a journey of learning about men that had the surprising outcome of learning about ME. So many foreign concepts were presented during this time, many of which held the mirror up to my face and asked confronting questions or showed confronting realities. Yuk.

It wasn’t until I discovered Dr Paul that I began to get answers that were tangible enough for me to truly grasp and put into action. Until that time there were too many grey areas, too many questions still racing around in my head. But Dr Paul helped to remove the confusion and give me clarity, not just about men, but about my own attitudes and behaviours that needed addressing for my own personal growth, and for my success in life and in relationships.

I live in Australia, my native country, but spent 10 years living in England during the 90s. My career has always been in marketing communications, working for agencies and consultancies as opposed to in-house for the large corporations that have been/are my clients. During my career I have worked in advertising, experiential marketing (events), new media and public relations. I am currently Managing Director of a public relations consultancy that has been my workplace for eight years now.

I have found that my own experiences, coupled with my learnings from Dr Paul have given me insights and compassion for women who are also seeking to understand and grow. So many women arrive at this forum as a result of searching for understanding and explanations and, like me, their relief in finding a sounding board and the guidance that comes with it, is tremendous.

I am a Magician in KWML terms (last test 30% Magician/23.3% for each of the remaining three quadrants) and a Sagittarian in astrological terms.

I look forward to meeting all the women who find their way to Dr Paul and this forum as they travel along their own personal paths to happiness and fulfilment.