Receiver vs giver question

[sweetping]

Hi Paul,

At what age does a son/man 'grow up' to be/become a giver from being a receiver?

Thank you,

SiewPing

[Paul Dobransky MD]

There is no specific age because our "psychological age" (of development and maturity) almost never perfectly matches our chronological age.

Why? We would have to have a perfectly smooth course in which social learning is always fostered, with no distractions, as well as a good mentor or mentors (ideally, if that were parents, but sometimes is coaches, teachers and other adults when we are young)...

Such things that could hold back our development are psychological trauma, stresses, challenges, lack of contact with other people (we can only learn socially through other people), feedback from or about those people, learning difficulty and limitations - intelligence, learning disability, noise, bad environments etc (keep in mind that the more mature we are, with better boundaries, the faster and more in depth we can learn socially.

So the answer is not an "age" but an "amount of learning" in the right environments, with the right instructor (again, ideally that would be parents)...

Which leads us to the value of therapy. Good environment and mentor.

Remaining passive and just letting years of age pass will often not produce anything. And when social learning and maturity DO happen just by way of age, the person is a naturally curious person who learns from social interactions and feedback that can be expected with ordinary life's experience (we say certain challenges "build character" for this reason...)

MindOS mastery is for this purpose. It lays out the exact things that compose maturity, character and personal growth - for rapid learning and thorough instruction. Therapy ought to be augmented by it.

MindOS is at:

http://www.womenshappiness.com/courses/mindos

[eltigre1013]

Thanks for your question. We'll address on tonight's teleseminar, too!