A QUESTION COMES IN:

Dr. Paul ...
I was refered to your website by a friend who said that you give very solid advice on relationships, so I figured that I would give this a shot and ask someone for help who could give more insight on my situation than my friends ...

I started seeing a guy over the summer, it was a casual relationship which was exactly what I was looking for after leaving a very rocky three year relationship. Things seemed to be going well until I was offered an internship by the same company that he currently works for. My position is completely unrelated to his, and we don't even work in the same building. However, he was concerned that our relationship could potentially jeopardize his job and on that basis he decided that it would be better if we did not continue seeing each other for the duration of my internship. I understand where he is coming from on this and while I don't think that it is a good idea to have a relationship with someone you work with I also feel that you can't help who you like. I was completely supportive of his decision and felt that the situation ended amicably; there were no harsh words exchanged or any fighting or protests towards the decision. I was under the assumption that we would still be "cool" with each other. The first time we ran into each other at work things went well, we had a nice conversation about what the other was doing and how things were going (this meeting was almost a month after we stopped seeing each other, and hadn't been in contact since things ended). However the next time I saw him I politely said "hi" and was responded to with a grunt and a head nod, which while I was not completely satisfied with the encounter, was willing to chalk it up to a bad day or a rough work week. However I have seen him twice since then and said "hi" and he walked past me like a stranger on the street. In all three of those encounters, I was not looking to have a heart felt conversation or a lengthy heart to heart, a polite "hi" or "hey what's up" would have been completely sufficient. I tried to contact him once via text message, which was very common during our "relationship" this was also not responded to.

With that being said, I guess I'm just really confused as to what happened, how our very easy and fun relationship turned to him not even being able to say "hi" to me on the rare occasion that we see each other.

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