If you have trouble getting dates in the first place, there are several possibilities.

One involves the importance of what's "inside" you as far as knowledge of the very first phase of romance: Sexual Attraction.

To get this handled in your life involves more than just looking good (although that IS important to men.) It also involves the skills in first meeting a man that have to do with flirting as a method of projecting who you might someday be in his life.

I cover this in introductory fashion in the book from PenguinBooks called The Secret Psychology of How We Fall in Love, and in great detail on actual audio CDs and DVDs of a day-long seminar for women, called the Seventh Sense Seminar.  In this, you will learn about all the phases of romance, actual body language moves and ways to recognize in analytical accuracy, what he thinks about you at this early stage: Sexual Attraction.

Another possibility has to do with what is OUTSIDE you. Certainly, part of gelling well, and rapidly with a man involves HIS personality type, and your choices of social environment and city of residence.

The KWML personality typing method has much to do with both of these.  An inexpensive book, KWML, introduces you to this remarkable technology in "profiling" men, and the DVD version called KWML Mastery takes your skill with this to the level of predicting likely future behavior in a romantic match with the man. You can learn to tell this within a half an hour of conversation with a man.

While it serves you well to thoroughly know all the above through the Seventh Sense Seminars on CD or DVD, another inexpensive way to talk to me directly by phone is through our every other week TELESEMINARS for women. ON the phone, we can literally sort out what you need in order to grow the skills you need, and get those dates.

If you have trouble starting a relationship, then you must have the ability to get dates in the first place, which is GREAT!  So Sexual Attraction may not be the biggest problem for you.

Starting a relationship from just a Sexual Attraction level absolutely needs the ability to be a great FRIEND to the man. As in my book with Penguin, The Secret Psychology of How We Fall in Love, friendship is "consistent, mutual positive emotion."

Now part of friendship then is the ability to manage anger and anxiety well, because these are the only negative emotions in existence.  My mindOS ebook, CDs and DVDs train you in this with the latest psychoanalytic theory put into simple form of actual MAPS of these emotions that run through you.

Higher level friendship with men comes from knowing the KWML method well. This is a simple but profound way of rapidly assessing a man's personality style for fit to your own. Since "opposites attract," knowing the basics in the KWML ebook and the deep levels of predicting the future behavior in a man or a relationship rests in the KWML Mastery Course for women. When you have this level of understanding and skill, you can always identify the guy EARLY, who has the potential to be a BEST friend.

We cover any questions you have, LIVE, on the phone with me personally at the every other week TELESEMINARS for women, and the complete system for taking your social skills from "just dating" to full on marriage are certainly in the Seventh Sense Seminar for women on CD or DVD.

If you've gotten this far in your dating and relationship life, then you have mastered Sexual Attraction skills, and the Emotional Attraction skills that we all call FRIENDSHIP.

However, the idea of holding on to a relationship absolutely needs a deep understanding of identity in women and men - something that has everything to do with BOUNDARY SKILL.  The mindOS ebook gives you an intro to my visual methods of understanding these, and since they are so very easy to understand in visual form, the mindOS DVD set takes your learning to a deeper level.

Without boundary strength, men and women cannot possibly, truly commit in a real psychological way.  You may have an agreement, you may say the words "I love you," and you may even have a legal document called a marriage license, but true psychological commitment is the coming together of two "wolrdview" in harmony.  The ONLY way that can happen is through thorough understanding of boundaries.

If you have thoroughly learned about KWML through either the introductory ecourse or Mastery Course on DVD, then it is likely that you selected the right man in the FIRST PLACE to get this far into committed relationship with.  The bond of personalities is like SUPERGLUE when you have this kind of emotional chemistry going, and hard to break. Unfortunately, many women don't have this intuitive sense already working for them, and end up in a relationship that NEVER had chemistry of this type. From there, it can be very hard to keep together when you both go through the challenges of life together. KWML prevents that problem.

In my book with PenguinBooks, called The Secret Psychology of How We Fall in Love, I cover all nine steps of human courtship in a way that guarantees you never need to worry about whether you have made the right choice in a man. It works ITSELF out. The Seventh Sense Seminar for women on CD or DVD takes this system and makes it personal for you, with me explaining the material to women just like you.

Cheating is a VERY interesting topic.

The reason that people cheat has much to do with difficulty in personal boundary skill, something I cover deeply in the mindOS courses. The WAY men and women cheat has to do with their gender instincts.

Ultimately, when a man and woman with poor boundaries get in a situation where they don't understand the courtship steps at a deep level, they find themselves paired up in a surface commitment to someone with whom they may have several mismatches with in Sexual Attraction, Emotional Attraction, and Intellectual Attraction. 

As a result, they find that they are with someone with whom their psychology matches from 50 to 75%. With poor boundaries (making it very difficult to have a complete ability to really commit), they tend to then cheat with another person besides their partner - someone who almost universally "fills in the gaps" of courtship's missing skills and steps!

Ultimately, the perfect defense against cheating or wanting to cheat, rests in mastering these and reognizing their skill level in MEN.

That is what the Seventh Sense Seminar for women is for!  You will completely understand and learn to practically use new Sexual, Emotional, and Intellectual Attraction techniques.

If you have any personal dilemmas in this area and want to talk directly to a Board Certified M.D. psychiatrist (me!) at a very inexpensive rate not normally seen, then call in to our every other week TELESEMINARS for women at www.womenshappiness.com

While career is very important for ALL people, men and women have different INSTINCTS as far as their sense of masculinity and femininity.

One of the general principles I teach both men and women is that it is important to get a little "into the other person's shoes" in order to fully attract them.

Many men see career women as really "getting it" about how they think. Men are very career and goal directed not just in personality style, but in INSTINCT - an actual reflex that indicates masculinity.

Men also need to sense that your presence in their lives will amplify their social STATUS. In other words, if you make them feel like they are more of a man because of you, if you "believe in" them, and if you have many friends, they sense that you have a strong femininity, and you being in their life will augment it.

Learning boundaries really helps with this need to have balance in your life between career and socializing, and that is in the mindOS series of products.

Making new friends is very important as the starting point of any personal growth, and you are certainly going to find that out in my SECOND book for women with PenguinBooks.

Learning KWML in the Mastery Course for women has a special emphasis on the pivotal role of friendship in building a life.

The correct order is friendship, then partial handling of your career at least (or it intuitively threatens men's sense of autonomy), then approaching men by the truckload.

You certainly are a go-getter! A vivacious woman full of life.  Perhaps you are a Warrior or Magician personality type that I describe in the KWML ecourse.

It is important to have a sense of what I call "the Cool Eye" in living your life, what psychoanalysts call Observing Ego.  This is your ability to think before you act, and to act with social and political discrimination, saying and doing the right thing at the right time in the right way.  In mindOS, and many of my programs, we see Observing Ego, the ability to "be cool," "stay cool," or have "cool under pressure" - as the very first step in any personal growth.

Since you certainly dive into life, and have the right spirit in improving yourself, it is important to remember that the core of good life is in cultivating friendships FIRST, rather than designing your whole life around men. 

Men are also very instinctually geared toward career ambitions, and if you have this at least partially figured out in your life, they will be less threatened by the concept of commitment, and see you more as a "cool woman."

YOU have a solid sense of strategy in the process of bonding with a great guy for life!

Men are instinctually hard wired for career ambitions, and having this in place makes sense, at least career partially determined.

Friendships are the very core of life and growth socially, so you are right in having this as a first priority!

In a way, the man situation works itself out when you have these priorities, and I guide you all the way through courtship in the Seventh Sense Seminar for women to that very end.

You know, this is one of those unfortunate things.

Geography can be VERY difficult to overcome because many people are so career directed, unwilling to look outside themselves at the environment and consider this:

That there is an ideal city, home, and culture for each of us to live in.

Many women in remote ares turn to online dating, but this is a poor substitute for how our bodies are designed for face-to-face socializing.  This is where the first sparks of attraction happen - in PERSON.

However, do pay attention to the products page, because online dating expert Ken Krandall and I have a new product on CD coming out for you on every detail of managing your online dating strategies.

In mindOS courses we do look to all the features of our lives, getting in place not only the right psychology on the inside, but also choosing the right environment on the outside.  When we have some boundary difficulty we tend to blame others and outside circumstances for our state of life, but it is also important to know that sometimes you really do need a better environment.

Oh the career that dominates so very much!

My sister once bought me some socks for my birthday, at a time when a job in a hospital had nearly ruined my social life.  The socks had this printed on them:

"The JOB that ATE my LIFE!"

I soon quit it. I got her womanly wisdom in the gift.

What actually budgets your time is not what you think it is. It is not paying the bills. It is not your duties or your dependents.

It's your BOUNDARY.

This is a very visual thing to understand. When you see me explain it LIVE, in the videos for the mindOS course, you will understand at a very deep level how exactly it is that boundary skill directs all our resources to the right place at the right time in the right way when we have that core skill called Observing Ego going on inside us. The mindOS system is the way to get this handled.

If you ever need personal help or advice, or simply want to chime in on the challenges and intrigues that men and women face in getting together, I am SURE I can help you LIVE, by PHONE, in PERSON at one of the every other week TELESEMINARS for women at www.womenshappiness.com

You can also talk to other women about men, dating and relationships at the free Women's FORUM!

Ok, this is a tough one.

When it seems like there are plenty of men, but none of them suit you, it can be several types of problem:

A problem of seeing men in a negative light, and having problems with attitude and self-esteem, something mindOS courses entirely fix.

A problem of lacking the skill to attract men, and at the same time DISCOVER men in the immediate environment whom you didn't even know existed! This is entirely handled by the Seventh Sense Seminar for women on DVD.

Yet if you are both good at attracting men in the first place, and also very intuitive (have a seventh sense of men), but STILL don't know why no men seem to suit you, then it really may be a problem of not knowing the KWML system of personality at a very deep level. The basic book is an intro, and the KWML Mastery Course for women gives you the knowledge to know what NEW environment to pick to find loads of the RIGHT kind of men for you.

If you are in this kind of situation where you just don't know what to do to fix this problem, then feel free to chat to other women on the www.womenshappiness.com FORUMS, or (and I urge you because it's that good and easy) to talk to me directly by PHONE, LIVE, for 90 minutes every other week on the women's TELESEMINAR.

Then you have what most people WISH for and do not have, and something very rare these days.  CONGRATULATIONS!

It is important to MAINTENANCE our relationships even when we find the right person to be with for life.

We need to attend to Sexual Attraction in an ongoing way, Emotional Attraction as well, and Intellectual Attraction to be solid and secure for life.

Since you have such a good match in the first place, it may at some point make sense to understand this remarkable new method for women to understand their relationships, called the Seventh Sense Seminar on DVD, or check in any time you like to talk personally by phone with me on the every other week TELESEMINARS for women.