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The Four Levels of the Men's Minds in Inception, and in Your Dating and Personal Growth
I’m going to assume that by now many of you have seen the mind-bending movie, Inception, with Leo DiCaprio.
I was whetting your appetite for Inception in last week's newsletter, and implied that there is something pretty profound in there for you to learn, not just about your dating life, but your own personal growth too.
It’s true.
Did you ever stop to think about how many parallels there are in science? What I’m getting at is something like this: on the micro scale, there are electrons that spin around a nucleus in atoms, but on a macro scale, there are planets that spin around suns, and in all varieties in between, such as in living things, there are emotional connections in higher animals, causing the lesser in pleasure and happiness to socially “spin” around those expressing more pleasure and happiness. There’s a universal concept there at all levels, having to do with “spinning” or “rotating.”
The same is true in this film, Inception.
In it, there are four levels of the unconscious that the heroes travel through, and this is particularly useful to us if you are familiar with either the intro book called The Three Brains of Mr. Right, or the higher technology, The Seventh Sense Program, both of which have three “levels of the mind,” and a secret fourth and deepest level I have never talked about until recent months, with the release of Complete Feminine Empowerment:
It turns out that simultaneously, many men you meet in your dating will be MASTERS of only one of these top three levels, yet you, yourself will tend to be working hardest in your life on mastering one of these three levels too.
The end result may be that you get involved with a man (unwittingly) to “learn lessons” in life, but with whom you may be very unlikely to strike up a lasting relationship or even a rich dating experience.
If put in perspective, that’s fine, but my goal is for you to be fully aware that this is what’s happening to you, so that you don’t have regrets, wasted resources, and sadness when things don’t go as planned, later.
And the mysterious FOURTH LEVEL that you likely were never aware of before – just like in the movie, Inception.
Last week, I introduced the idea to you that at a big, macroscopic level there are going to be many men you encounter in your life that can be pegged into one of three categories you have likely always been aware of, but never in the way we are going to discuss below.
You were drawn to them perhaps in part as a reaction to your most recent past relationship (“Never want to go through THAT again”), or your worst relationship, or memories of “the one that got away.” Just like the planets have rotation in common with electrons, the issues you need to work on, and the skill-building that's necessary in you parallel the actual STRENGTHS that the man you are dating possesses.
These three men are:
1. The Sexy/Charming One – he is a master of flirting and charm, and even while he plays with you, you cannot resist doing his bidding, even though you know he has nothing in common with you or your life other than the passion you feel.
2. The Friendly/Funny One – being around him just makes you happy. You like him and he likes you back. Sex is not a topic that comes up, and while it’s strangely absent, you can’t help but go on spending your time and energy on this man, even though part of you isn’t attracted to him, or perhaps part of him isn’t sexually attracted back. You don’t care. You just make each other happy.
3. The Brainy/Successful One – there’s something about him that just looks so freaking ideal on paper. He has the right credentials, a list of things in your shopping list for a man you have always wanted (or your friends or family have always wanted FOR you), and with classic good looks, maybe even an advanced degree or old money that implies financial stability, but you notice that sex is not part of the picture. Yet the effect he has on your social reputation or even career is a very, very good thing. People compliment you about him, and while conversation is very interesting, intoxicating even – full of debate and a sharpening of your intellectual sword to be with him – you still sense deep down, at “other levels” that there is something just not right about being with him.
What if I were to tell you that just as in the “levels” of Inception, that each impacts the next in ways that were unexpected or out of your conscious awareness?
What if there’s something about YOU and your growth challenges that you needed to learn, and this person was the perfect one to learn those lessons with?
BUT…
He NEVER was going to be the one you’d be with for life, or with whom you were even going to have a rich, solid dating experience?
Would you be surprised?
You won’t be if you have already gotten your hands on the starter book, The Three Brains of Mr. Right, or the full course on disc, containing the teaching aspects of my live seminars, called the Seventh Sense Program:
Have you heard of the common wisdom that "there's either a reason, a season, or a lesson" as the explanation of why we meet people with whom the relationship doesn't last?
This is all three:
- The "reason" is that we notice strengths in others that we are working on ourselves, simply by where we focus our attention.
- The "season" is that as we progress through the three levels of the mind on the way to the deepest of all - the fourth level - we are in fact growing, maturing, as do the seasons that mark change.
- The "lesson" is that if we could only determine the precise strengths in the man that attracts you, and correlate them to the "Feminine Empowerment Circuits" I talk about in the Complete Feminine Empowerment Program, you will find a literal roadmap and schedule planner for meeting, dating and relating to "complete" or "integrated" men with whom you WILL have a rich dating life and long term potential with.
Consider a man until otherwise proven, to be BEST at one of these three:
· Lover
· Friend
· Partner
Then consider that these parallel the Sexual Attraction, Emotional Attraction and Intellectual Attraction (and Maturity) I talk about in the system of the Seventh Sense Program:
If you were to meet three men this weekend of each type, and even if you aren’t going to date one or more of them, you could use it as an experience of being able to quickly “identify” which of the three they are best at.
The first will make you feel interested in him sexually.
The second will make you feel happy but perhaps not sexual or intellectually stimulated.
The third will make you think a great deal, perhaps even a refreshing insight about your career because of him, and this is what makes him still appealing (and feminizing) to you to be involved with – he “looks good on paper,” and in conversation.
Here’s the tough part though. If you recall the film, Inception, and we are going down to the FOURTH LEVEL they talk about, and which I teach in the new Complete Feminine Empowerment Program – what amounts to Jung’s “collective unconscious” – you are going to have to face some demons.
Of the three men you meet, whether sexually interesting, emotionally pleasant, or intellectually interesting (and mature), your biggest current challenge will cause you to prefer one of the three types, and be the area of your life you need to work the most on.
These will most often relate to and be powered and driven by the “circuits of femininity” I identify for you in the new Complete Feminine Empowerment Program:
The Psyche Circuit
The Aphrodite Circuit
The Hera Circuit
The Medusa Circuit
The Echo Circuit
And dozens of others.
If you were to notice what is happening in the levels of Inception, the first is full of combat - the Ego Defenses that we discuss in the MindOS Mastery Program. These are methods of our own minds preventing us from knowing the difficult things about ourselves, and our LACKS, which we'd rather not be aware of. This is the "Higher Brain."
At the second level of Inception, we see the containment of various hotel rooms which compartmentalize our emotions, label them, assign them to certain memories and certain people - the Mammalian Brain.
The third level of Inception marks the deepest and most primitive we have gone so far, and the level of your most primal conflicts and needs to grow as a woman. In the movie, the Oedipal relationship between son and father is explored. But also between daughter and father WITHIN the marital relationship of DiCaprio's character. This is the level of feminine identity itself. Of note is the confusion surrounding what's REAL while within the marriage. Is the unconscious real, or what seems to be conscious life? It kills the wife, and the marriage in the end.
But what of the fourth level in the movie? The one where time has slowed down so far that fifty years of living can pass in an instant of the lives of the other levels?
It is the level of "putting all the pieces together" - the one where the constants among all men and women exist, as TIMELESS.
How do I know which level is which? Because as we progress, time slows more and more, from the level that most marks time for us - the Higher Brain, the place of maturity and the temporary, the place where the concept of time itself is created by the Left-brain (past) and the Right-brain (future).
Yet as we go down deeper, time slows to the degree that EMOTIONS slow down our experience - the Mammalian Brain. Remember the saying, "Time flies when you are having fun?" Or have you ever gone to a two hour dinner with friends, but it felt like a great and compelling, several DAYS long conversation? Time has slowed in the world of emotion, friendship or love. Certainly you have felt this while with a man with whom there is a strong friendship.
Time is slower still at your personal Reptilian Brained level - where memories of your distant past seem to always persist, toward timelessness... (except for the fact that you will indeed, someday die, which also explains why one level down further, time nearly stops and you are considered in the movie to be in "limbo").
This lowest, fourth level of the film is the "collective unconscious" talked about by Carl Jung, and one where you actually see all the other levels and how they work together. It is like a big picture view of life, dating and relationships, where you can clearly see that not only is there sexual attraction, friendship and partnership potential in a man, but where the whole set of connections work together to form a stable, lasting, satisfying STORY between you.
It is one of durability and richness, meaning and completion. And that is the goal to shoot for with a man, in a rich dating and relationship life.
Your work on your feminine skill of the Athena Circuit demands that you learn how to disappoint others for the sake of your life's purpose and your personal progress. This is boundaries of the Higher Brain.
Your work on the feminine skill of the Psyche Circuit also has emotional ramifications in the Mammalian Brain of the emotions, and marriage.
It's in Complete Feminine Empowerment at:
